The Countdown

We are in the two week countdown for my daughter leaving for college. Comforters have been bought (and returned and bought again), lists have been checked off, roommates discovered and some goodbyes already said. Last night we had dinner with her friends and their moms and I am so proud. I knew she had fabulous girlfriends. And I see where it comes from. Good, solid, accomplished, interesting, kind moms. As my daughter heads off to college, I can be sure that she makes good choices in the people she wants to surround herself with. Isn’t that one of the most important things we can teach our kids? Who will you know? Who will you love? There is so much more though, and I send my girl off with these thoughts….

1. Enjoy learning. It is one of the few times that studying is your job.

2. Be true to yourself. You will know when you’re not. But don’t be too tough on yourself if you do act like someone else sometimes. It helps you see yourself more clearly. It’s part of the process.

3. Be a good friend and a good listener. When someone tells you about a problem, usually it is a kind ear that is most appreciated, not a problem solver.

4. Reach out when you need it. You are not perfect and no one else is either. Share your humanity with others. It is what makes us closer. And if you took a chance and trusted someone and it didn’t work out, it’s ok. You showed courage.

5. Party a little but not a lot. Nothing good comes of the extremes. Always have a buddy and watch out for each other.

6. Take care of your body. Exercise and eat well. Get enough rest.

7. Remember that you become who you hang out with. Surround yourself with people you admire and aspire to be like.

8. What initially is shocking becomes mundane over time. Trust your instincts and stay true to your values.

9. Have a routine. It is so easy to float through the less structured days and nights of college. But having some predictability is good and will help you face your new responsibilities.

10. We are going to miss you. You light up our house and it will be so different without you. But we will be ok. We are happy for you and your next adventure. Live your life and excel for us, and for you.